Women

This is not a topic I’ve ever written about but thought about it many times in my life. Women, why do some never grow up? Why do some love drama so much they drag it out into their adult years? Why? Someone please explain this to me, this could be a reason why I have always had more guy friends than girls, because there is never any drama with men. Men don’t give a shit if you don’t come to their birthday lunch, or if you couldn’t get a sitter to hang out with them. Men don’t care, yes in a relationship this could hurt things but in a friendship it’s wonderful. I have never had a guy friend get mad at my over something soo silly and small. I have never once had a man question my friendship, availabity to our friendship, or ask why I seem so distant. However, with women and not all women but some that I have came across in my life or that I have viewed on the outside without even knowing a woman can tell that she is drama filled. A woman that is never satisfied and something is always wrong and wants to point out all the wrong in everyone else but themselves are women I don’t want to associate with. I have had a few failed friendships within the past two years with women that hurt me deeply and I have decided I’m not going to go out of my way for friends that are just “barely there” friends. I want someone that cares about me and what’s going on with me, not someone who only wants to spill their guts to me about their problems and talk shit about everyone they know to me. I don’t want to be apart of it. If you don’t like someone than you don’t like someone, but do not share it with other people that may be that person’s friends. What type of friend are you to put that one friend in a position to be stuck in the middle? Is that fair? I see women do this a lot and any time I see myself doing this I try very hard to catch myself and think. Then I keep quiet or I write about it. I do not want to bitch to another woman about a friend of ours that is out of place or I am having issues with because this is not fair to anyone involved. I also find many women that hide in their misery. Ever been around a woman that maybe didn’t like the woman beside them or what they were doing and make a snide rude comment instead of directing that snide rude comment at the person they seem to have a problem with? What the fuck women? Come on?! How old are we, if you don’t like me or what I wear or what I say then keep it to your fucking self! It’s not cute, it’s not funny, and in the end you look like the child. Am I innocent in all of the flaws that women have being friends with other women? HELL NO, but I am the first to admit my flaws when it comes to relationships with other women! Bottom line, I don’t like them, I’m not good at them, and I’ve been done so shitty by other women I find it best not to make new friendships with women, this way in the long run I can get my ass handed back to me. Nothing to loose, I struggle with this and sometimes find myself asking questions as to why I even still associate myself with some women that I thought were my friends. Because the minute I do not do what they think is right, or what they want me to do, or what they think I should be able to do I get nasty looks, rude comments (not at me) and conversations about me being talked behind my back by other women in the group!? I mean what the fuck is really going on? I am just happy to like the women I work with, to have a job, family, friends, house, a car, and so much more, why would I want to concentrate on the negative? I did for years and I was miserable. I know some just can’t get out of a rut, but don’t bring others down because you are and don’t assume that you know what’s sincere and what’s not sincere. If you always looking over your shoulder maybe that should tell you that the problem is you, maybe you are too paranoid that someone is out to get you. Maybe don’t set your expectations so high for someone that you know can’t return what you expect. However, be honest with yourself. If you constantly find yourself talking about others and their problems, maybe the problems you and you just don’t want to admit it. Women that do this, please work harder to not do this. It’s not attractive and not appealing to women like me that already have a hard enough time being friends with other women. You only make it easier for us not to care and make us not want to get any closer than we have to, to you.